By using a tool like CBTReferee [iTunes link]
you invent that unbiased referee.
When a completely unfair thought comes in your head like "I'm an idiot" you don't just accept it. The referee blows his whistle and the cheating team does not get the point.
But don't go too far and make everything wonderful. The referee is 100% neutral and fair.
He just calls it like he sees it. But a fair ref is just want you want. A fair ref is so much better than no referee at all!